You cannot be a gentleman if you have no soul. The Gentleman Afsomali has a deep appreciation for Hees Qaraami (Classic Love Songs).
He listens to Mohamed Nuur Giriig and Hibo Nuura. He knows the lyrics to Qaraami by heart. In a social gathering, he does not need a DJ to feel alive. He can sit with an elder, discussing the golden age of Somali music (1970s-80s), and understand the metaphors of the Kaban (oud). A Gentleman Afsomali
Why is this gentlemanly? Because it shows continuity. A man who knows the art of his past is a man who has depth. He is not easily swayed by the shallow flashes of social media influencers. You cannot be a gentleman if you have no soul
The most famous Somali proverb states: "Hadal iyo dagaal waa labo gees oo isku mid ah" (Speech and war are two sides of the same coin). He knows the lyrics to Qaraami by heart
A Gentleman Afsomali understands that words are weapons. He does not engage in Qaylo (loud, chaotic arguing). In a culture known for fiery poetry and sharp-tongued debate, the true gentleman is the one who masters Amaah (restraint). He speaks softly, chooses his maahmaah (proverbs) wisely, and never insults an elder or a guest. He knows that once a word leaves the mouth, like an arrow, it cannot be retrieved.
Finally, a gentleman knows when to leave. He does not overstay his welcome. He does not force a relationship that is broken.